Wake Up Your Life by Doris Roper -- A Review
Topic: Book Review

Before I get into my review of this book, I'd like to extend an apology to Doris and all my readers.  This should have been posted Saturday, but I was having connection trouble on and off and it is late :-(  It seems ice and cable lines don't always mix.  Now, to the review...

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Life transitions are notoriously difficult for many women--lacking both self-confidence and financial independence, many stay in situations that are far less than ideal.  Doris Roper has created a book for that helps women through these transitions, building self-confidence as well as financial knowledge. 

Wake Up Your Life isn't your typical advice book, although there is plenty of that included!  Ms. Roper has included smart women quotes to encourage and illustrate her points.  She has added interactive exercises, both in dealing with the transitions and in self-evaluation.  Using down-to-Earth language, Doris Roper explains how and why each step is important, making it possible for the reader to more easily follow the steps.

I was impressed with the amount of information included in this book.  I felt it was worth the time and effort to read.  Personally being a strong, independent woman, I figured it would be a light read, but I found myself learning and discovered some things I never realized. 

This is a book to be read by every woman, no matter where you are on your life path.  Once you have worked through the exercises and reached the end, you will feel as though someone has gently taken your hand and led you through the darkness into a new light of self-confidence and independence.

This book definitely gets seven colors on the Rainbow Scale of Excellence--a Perfect Rainbow.

 

Doris Roper tells Why she wrote Wake Up Your Life
Topic: Blog Tours

WAKE UP your life! Why I wrote the book

Wake Up Your Life by Doris Roper--and Excerpt
Topic: Blog Tours

Contents

Introduction The beginning of the beginning. 1

Chapter 1 Getting clear on my quest. 9

Chapter 2 Pain is a blessing, not a curse. 17

Chapter 3 Forget rejection, think redirection. 23

Chapter 4 Give up your power, give up your life. 31

Chapter 5 Focus on your limitations, and you will only see brick walls. 43

Chapter 6 Remember the Butterfl y Effect – your view of things affects others. 59

Chapter 7 Forgiveness is for you, not for them. 67

Chapter 8 You gotta have fun! 83

Chapter 9 Get ready to rock and roll! 89

Appendix Purpose Finder & Debt Reduction 103

 

The beginning of the beginning—how one day changed everything.

December 19th, 1991—the date that my journey began. It was a day of great emotional pain, the day I started to wake up and regain my personal power. I was 32 years old.

I have a story to tell that I know will help you. It is about how I came awake and fi gured out how to have the life that I really want. In some ways, my story is similar to those of many other women; in other ways, it has some angles that are unusual if not unique.

The main part of the story takes place in George, Western Cape Province, South Africa. A tourist destination any time of year, it became home for me when my husband Tom and I moved there in my early 20s. It was a move prompted by a lifelong desire to own my own business. George was one of the two fastest growing towns in South Africa and the only one near the coast.

I had trained to become a goldsmith in the executive capital, Pretoria, and was fortunate enough to learn my trade at avery reputable jeweler whose owners happened to be good friends of my parents. Just like us, they were Viennese and it was at their suggestion that I tried on goldsmithing for size and found an instant connection with it. Tom was not qualified at anything and had been working at the weather bureau when we met. I heard that an old school colleague, Peter, who had also become a goldsmith (and who I knew was not a very good one) had moved to George to open the first manufacturing jewelry shop there. He was doing well (being the only one) and I thought that I needed to give him some competition.

Because of the training I had received, I was considered a very good goldsmith and designer, so that was the catalyst for our move to George. It was not a surprise when, shortly after we moved there, Peter sold his shop.

I had met Tom at a nightclub and we had had a one year courtship before getting married in 1980. Looking back, I realize that the feelings I had for Tom had nothing to do with love. At the time, however, it seemed like love. He was a terribly handsome man who was very smitten with me. I had never experienced such intensity from a man before and thought he must really love me. Being 20 years old did not make me an expert on love.

When I did have niggling feelings of doubt and try to pull away, Tom would be so intensely needy that I felt sorry for him. I confused that feeling with love. Whatever it was, it was enough to push me into a new life in a new town with a new husband.

SMART WOMAN QUOTE

When a woman tells the truth she is creating the possibility for more truth around her.  ~ Adrienne Rich

George is a small city or a big town, not quite 100,000 inhabitants. It is a vacation destination for South Africans, sitting along the Indian Ocean coast in a perpetually mild climate. The environment suited me, and I enjoyed establishing myself in the jewelry business as well as in the community at large.

Social life in George was limited, and the “friendship pool” among permanent residents was finite. Tom and I liked to socialize, and we joined the local tennis club shortly after taking up residence, seeking like minded souls with whom to socialize, play tennis, and generally serve as our friends’ network.

One of those souls was Candy, wife of Martin, another club member. A quiet, apparently delicate woman, in many ways she was my antithesis. Where I was strong, assertive, and ready to converse on any topic, Candy was shy, unassuming, and more comfortable listening than talking. However, she was an excellent tennis player and golfer, and the men found her physically attractive.

In some ways, Candy was a “traditional” woman, a helpless waif who looked to men to guide her through life. Her self-esteem was so low that when a man paid her attention, she blossomed. Of course, the novelty wore off after a while and she would become demanding and draining. I had no idea when I first met her how powerfully attractive that kind of woman can be to a certain kind of man—the kind of man I chose.

Candy and Martin were our first close friends in George, and we got to know each other very well. Apart from playing tennis once or twice per week, we also spent each weekend playing cards and socializing together. Actually, Candy and Tom got to know each other well— very, very well. I discovered that they had fallen in love with each other less than two years into our marriage and approximately six months after we moved to George.

Frankly, I took the revelation calmly—relative, that is, to how I took similar news a few years later. Tom admitted that he had fallen in love with her, but that he did not know what to do about it because he loved us both. My overriding feeling was one of hurt pride. I had married a weak man, someone who leaned on me for the simplest things, and that weakness made him vulnerable. According to him, his feelings for Candy “just happened,” he loved us both, and he did not know what to do.  Candy, a married woman herself, apologized to me, saying how sorry she was but that there was nothing they could do about it, and a lot more in the same vein.

My decision about how to handle the situation was more or less made for me when I fell pregnant in the midst of all the hubbub. We stayed together through the birth of our son, and less than two years later, our daughter. We stayed married, in fact, for another five years after the big revelation.

Enter Dick

Tom and I divorced when I was 29 and I entered another relationship. Dick was a much better person than Tom (or so I thought), and I was confident that this time there was a solid foundation for a bond that would last for years. This new (and improved) man in my life was a very good tennis player and a life-of–the–party type. He regularly arranged barbecues, games evenings and parties.

Dick moved in with me about five months into the relationship, and this man who was so different from my ex-husband enriched my life. The difference in my relationship with Dick was that we connected well intellectually and had great fun sparring verbally – something I had not had with Tom at all! I found it very stimulating and exciting to stretch my intellectual muscles.

Dick created quite a large social circle—a circle that included Candy and Martin (yes, Martin had stayed with her after her fling with Tom). In such a small community, it was impossible for me to distance myself from my ex-husband’s ex-lover, so I made the best of the situation.

Actually, as strange as it may seem, I really liked Candy. Our relations were cordial, we played tennis periodically and all socialized together, with Dick organizing most of the parties. Martin was more of a golfer, so did not hang out at the tennis club that much.

Déjà vu all over again

I was sitting at a Bridge table the night of December 18th in 1991, with Dick, Candy and Martin. We were engaged in a sociable game, accompanied by a nice red wine that all of us were fully enjoying. I do not remember now what prompted me to look under the table—perhaps I leaned down to get something out of my purse, or I dropped my napkin—but whatever it was, what I saw shook the foundations of my world.

Candy and Dick were playing footsie under the table, bare feet caressing each other. I could not believe what I was seeing at first. Then events took a Hollywood turn, as we all behaved like characters in a nighttime soap opera. My wine-sparked emotions spurred me as I stood up and began a tirade that did not end until we got home.

“So now you’re at it with another of my men,” I remember saying to (or rather, shouting at) Candy. “What’s the matter with you?”

There was much protestation and apology, both at the Bridge table and on the way home in the car. Dick assured me that this was all a tempest in a teacup, that nothing was going on, that he was sorry. I listened to everything he had to say, then took myself off to bed in an attempt to get some distance from the situation before discussing things further.

Predictably, I did not sleep well that night. It was the eve of the worst day of my life, the day that everything fell apart and the day I began to put it all back together again.

Waking up

My life is the reflection of the realization of my internal quest over all those years, and I find that now is the time to share my journey with others. That is what this book is about. It is a guide for waking up, based on my own journey from sleep to full consciousness. My story is meant to resonate with you, to inspire you, to show that any woman can reach the place where life is full and healthy and relationships are fulfilling rather than dramatic.

Ladies, let’s get rolling…and start turning around the things in your life that are sapping your power and aliveness.

The Power of 3

Sets of three have a special power to the human brain. I do not know why, but it is so. To tap into the “power of 3,” I will include a question at the end of each chapter that asks you to think of three of something. To start things off:

What three situations or challenges in your life need resolution?

About Doris Roper

Doris lives in Carlsbad, California with her husband Arlen. Between them, they have four grown children and three grandsons.

Doris is a Financial Life Planner, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, partner in a wealth management firm and trained mediator.

Her life experiences, many of which are mentioned in this book, have given her a passion to help women become empowered. Doris therefore created the W.I.T Institute – a one-stop resource and membership site for women in transition where they can get support, education and advice.

Contact details:

doris@witinstitute.com

www.witinstitute.com

Click below to get to order page

http://witinstitute.com/wake_up.html

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Don't forget the giveaway:

Each time a blog visitor comments on any or all of the blog stops, they will be entered in a random drawing for a 6 month Gold membership to The Smart Woman’s Success Connection http://www.smartwomanssuccess.com/index.php/public/56-gold.

This membership has everything you need to know for money management including information about having a financial plan and starting a business and includes a copy of her book in audio and PDF. It also offers a resource for women who want to stop their divorce..

Share your thoughts and comments with author Doris Roper. She will check in throughout the day to answer questions. You’ll learn more and have a chance to win a Gold membership to The Smart Woman’s Success Connection. If you haven't already read her book pick up a copy during the tour at http://www.witinstitute.com/wake_up.html

For more information about Doris Roper and her virtual tour, check the schedule at http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2008/12/wake-up-your-life-by-doris-roper.html

Teaching Women to Claim Their Own Power
Topic: Blog Tours

Our guest over the next few days is Doris Roper.  We will be exploring some of her work, especially her book, Wake Up Your Life!

WAKE UP your life! combines Doris ’s story with sage insights about how to turn on your life’s alarm clock and get going in the direction of aliveness and fulfillment. In these pages, Doris tells her “one of a kind” story about the day her life crashed down around her and what she did about it.   Consider this book a ticket for your journey to an amazing life. Along the way, you will have the opportunity to:   Consider how you can wake up your own life. Change the way you perceive the pain you encounter in your life and relationships. Turn rejection into redirection. Experience the enormous power of forgiveness in making the life you want. Distinguish between your limiting beliefs and that positive inner voice that propels you forward.

What would you do if you had three major relationships in your life and the same woman interfered in all three of them? How would you handle it? This is what happened to Doris Roper.. First, her husband of two years fell in love with this woman (*Candy) and in the midst of trying to decide what to do about it, Doris fell pregnant with her first child and the decision was made to continue with the marriage. More than 5 years later, the marriage ended in a very difficult divorce, and Doris entered her next major relationship with *Dick. Two years into this relationship, Doris discovered that he was cheating on her with Candy. Shocked and devastated, this became the starting point of an inner journey that woke up her life.

 

The growth and insights gained as a result of her experiences, put Doris where she is today—with a fabulous marriage, a challenging and fulfilling profession, and a story that inspires and motivates other women to follow her example.

 

Doris focuses on working with women dealing with a transition to build a solid financial foundation. Her experiences of going through a difficult divorce, rebuilding and running a business as a single mother with young children, her mother becoming a widow at 41 and transitioning to a new continent and successful career, give her an understanding and compassion for women dealing with transitions of their own. Doris found a large percentage of women don't feel competent when it comes to managing finances and investments, because women undervalue themselves and lack confidence.

 

Doris is the founder of The W..I.T. Institute, an educational and support organization for women to master their financial lives. Doris helps women to change their belief systems about life, money and success as she knows that it’s their limiting beliefs that keep so many women from being successful.

Doris is offering a wonderful giveaway. 

Each time a blog visitor comments on any or all of the blog stops, they will be entered in a random drawing for a 6 month Gold membership to The Smart Woman’s Success Connection http://www.smartwomanssuccess.com/index.php/public/56-gold. This membership has everything you need to know for money management including information about having a financial plan and starting a business and includes a copy of her book in audio and PDF. It also offers a resource for women who want to stop their divorce..

Share your thoughts and comments with author Doris Roper. She will check in throughout the day to answer questions. You’ll learn more and have a chance to win a Gold membership to The Smart Woman’s Success Connection. If you haven't already read her book pick up a copy during the tour at http://www.witinstitute.com/wake_up.html

 For more information about Doris Roper and her virtual tour, check the schedule at http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2008/12/wake-up-your-life-by-doris-roper.html

Meet the Multi-Talented Dehanna Bailee
Topic: Blog Tours

Dehanna Bailee is a multi-published author who shows an author does not need to stick with only fiction or non-fiction, but can be equally talented at both.  I will be featuring a few of her books today, and you can visit http://www.dehanna.com/index.htm to see even more--and get a free download! I also invite you back on Tuesday for an in-depth interview with Dehanna!

True Nature
ISBN 0975509519
Paranormal Romance

Summary

An inspiring novel about a courageous woman who seeks the truth of her soul and finds it's not just who we are, or were, that matters. It's who we will become. Readers are invited to accompany the author on a journey to explore the wilder side of our own nature through the eyes of her heroine, Kailen James. Haunted by her dreams and an unknown future, she travels to New Orleans and beyond where her deepest fears are revealed and the answers prove more startling than she ever imagined...

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Calypso's Revenge: A Traitor's Heart"
Genre: Sci-Fi/Futuristic with Romantic Elements

Cover Blurb:

Former Brigadier Teah Valtamise is wanted for killing her partner and abandoning her post. Eight years since she fled Calypso, she thinks she’s out testing her newest protégés skills however the solid sensation of a gun to the back of her head tells her otherwise. Now in the hands of an old comrade, as Teah works to save the life of an innocent oblivious to the depth of one man’s vengeance, will she be prepared to sacrifice everything--a chance at love, an old friendship, and possibly, her own life--to do what she knows is right?

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Title: "For Better or Worse"
Genre: Contemporary Paranormal Romance

Summary:

All Sandra ever wanted was a simple life with some sense of normalcy--what she has is a home invasion gone terribly wrong, an old boyfriend hot on the prowl, and one very, very angry husband. Will this werewolf in hiding be able to prove she isn’t going to leave her husband while trying to protect him from the consequences of an unanticipated slaying?

In “For Better or Worse,” a modern-day woman struggles to keep the truth of her identity hidden from the mortal man she wed while the bonds of marriage are tested by a long lost love.

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Dehanna Bailee also writes extensively on the subject of POD publishing.  For details on those books, please visit her website.

A Talk with David Snowdon
Topic: Author Interview
Thanks for being here today, David! Let's start by getting the details out of the way so we can concentrate on the fun stuff. Can you tell our readers where they can find more information on you and your work-website?

Hello, Joyce. It's a pleasure to be here today. The information for the readers is as follows;

Website:  http://www.the-mind-of-a-genius.com/

About the book:

The Mind of a Genius by David Snowdon

ISBN: 978-0-9552650-1-3

Publisher: Pentergen Books

Date of Publish: Nov 16, 2007

Pages: 288

S.R.P £6.99/ $13.56

Available from:

Waterstone's Bookshops and Waterstone's.com, Blackwells Bookshops and Blackwells.com, Amazon.co.uk, Amazon.com and all good bookshops.

For reviews see Amazon.com

The Mind of a Genius is an action-based thriller. I found the title fascinating. Would you like to tell us how you came up with this title? Is this the same process you use for all your titles?

Malcolm Prince is a world-famous, British scientist, globally recognised for his scientific research work. What makes him a genius is his track record, and the fact that he created a formula that could change the world. The MI4, the CIA, the Denmark Intelligence, the Australian Intelligence and many other organisations couldn't wait to get their hands on that formula, the result of Prince's handiwork, and thus, The Mind of a Genius was born.

I use a similar method for most of my titles.

David, this book is more about espionage while your last book leaned more towards murder mystery. I'm wondering if you find it necessary to approach each genre differently, or do you find the two closely related?

My first book, Too Young To Die, was published in August 2006, and is a detective, murder mystery, set in London, Jamaica and Miami.

Private Investigator, Mike Heaton is hired by multi-billionaire, Ronald Patterson to find his daughter's killer, four years after she was brutally murdered.

While espionage thrillers and murder mystery thrillers could be closely related, because an espionage thriller could also be a murder mystery, that is not always the case, as an espionage thriller may not be a murder mystery. The Mind of a Genius is an espionage thriller, but it's not a murder mystery.  And therefore, I believe that each genre should be approached from a different angle.

When did you decide writing was where you wanted to focus your talents? Is this something you've always wanted, or did you just sort of fall into it?

As a child, when I was about 7-years-old, I used to enjoy standing in front of the class and telling short stories. I also wrote a few short stories. Later on in life, I started reading novels, and that was when the urge to write a book began. From then on, I knew that I wanted to be a writer. So from the look of things, writing is in the blood.

Being a British Author, do you find it difficult to promote your work in the United States? Is there any advice you can give others in your position that might make international promotion easier?

Over the years, I've done a lot of campaigns in the US, and I enjoy working with Americans. As far as I'm concerned, Americans are fun to work with. And I've never had any problems, promoting my work in the States.

Regarding the advice for my fellow writers, there's a wealth of information on the internet, and that makes international book promotion a doddle.

Outside writing, where does your passion take you? Any hobbies or causes you would like to talk about?

In my spare time, I like to play table tennis, socialize and read. I also like to travel.

If you could speak directly to each reader, what would you say?

Don't miss out on, The Mind of a Genius. This espionage thriller will take you all over the world.

Do you have any work in progress you would be willing to share?

My new book will be published some time in the future.

Again, thank you for being here today, David. Is there anything else you would like to say to our readers while you have the chance?

I would like to wish all of the readers a great New Year. Keep reading.

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Joyce Anthony for the interview.

The British Have Arrived--at least British author David Snowdon has :-)
Topic: Author Interview
  Today I'd like to introduce you to author, David Snowdon and his book, The Mind of a Genius. Later this week, I will be talking with David and sharing his answers with you!

The Mind of a Genius by David Snowdon                    

(The Formula That Could Change The World)

Special Agent, Jason Clay from the MI4 is hired to find a secret formula that was invented by the famous British scientist, Malcolm Prince. The only weak element in Clay's strategy to accomplish his mission is Laura Prince, the beautiful wife of the scientist, who Clay has to seduce in order to obtain the formula.

But the CIA, the Denmark Intelligence, the Australian Intelligence and many other very determined individuals are also after that formula, and can't wait to get their hands on it. The competition is fierce, but who's going to win?

The story develops as a travel through the world; with the action starting in London, then moving onto Copenhagen, Hong Kong and Australia.

Clay appears to be the right man for the job; extremely handsome and a natural charmer, nothing could be easier for him than seducing a beautiful woman in order to obtain a top secret.

For more information visit http://www.the-mind-of-a-genius.com/

About the book:

The Mind of a Genius by David Snowdon

ISBN: 978-0-9552650-1-3

Publisher: Pentergen Books

Pages: 288

S.R.P £6.99/ $13.56

 

Available from Waterstone's,  Blackwells, Amazon.co.uk Amazon.com and from the author at his website http://www.the-mind-of-a-genius.com/order.html

 

About David Snowdon -

British thriller writer, David Snowdon was born in London, and lives in London. He started writing in 1983, and wrote his first book, which hasn't been published in 1984. His first published work, Too Young To die, was published in August 2006. And his second novel, The Mind of a Genius, was published in November 2007.

To learn more about David Snowdon and The Mind of a Genius, visit http://www.the-mind-of-a-genius.com/ and to learn more about his virtual tour in early 2009, http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2008/12/mind-of-genuis-by-david-snowdon.html

Post comments on any of the blog tour stops and be entered in a drawing for a copy of The Mind of a Genius.

Make Every Day Valentine's Day--Two Reviews and a Contest
Topic: Book Review

Dr. Ava's Tantric Workbook -- A Review

Anyone can have sex, but it takes a conscious effort to make love.  Tantric sex involves the equal exchange of male and female energy-a steady give and take that involves a couple's entire being.  According to Dr. Ava Cadell, tantric love can help a couple overcome pain in a relationship and help in overcoming such ailments as premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

I took the time to fully digest what I was reading in this workbook. There are over one hundred short exercises--many just two minutes long--to help couples achieve the ultimate in sexual experience. Dr. Cadell speakes in a clear maner, making it easy to understand exactly how to perform each exercise.  There are numerous illustrations to further increase the reader's understanding.

The questionaire's included make it easy for a couple to evaluate their relationship both before and after the course. After each section, there is also an evaluation allowing the couple to "rate" each section.  Finally, Dr. Ava includes room for notes.

I found the section on chakras extremely interesting and easy to understand.  By seting forth exercises directed at all the senses, Dr. Ava Cadell makes it possible for a couple to make sexual encounters a whole-body experience, increasing the chances of mutual satisfaction.  Her tri-gasm theory is one I find both novel and intriguing.

On the rainbow scale of excellence, the Tantric workbook achieves seven colors-a perfect rainbow.

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      Searching for the World's Best Lover

Contest sponsored by www.loveologyuniversity.com The winner will be announced on Valentine’s Day, 2009 and get a $2,000 scholarship or $1,000 cash.    

 

 

An inspiration of Love Guru Dr. Ava Cadell, founder of www.loveologyuniversity.com invites romantics to submit an entry listing why their lover is the best. Upon nominating the name they will immediately receive a FREE certificate for their partner attesting to this loving tribute. This is a perfect Valentine’s gift at no cost.

 

To help World’s Best Lover contenders warm up, all nominees will also receive a FREE e-book entitled 52 Sizzling Sex Secrets.

 

Deadline for submissions is on February 7^th, 2009.

 

According to Dr. Ava, the event is inspired by the demand for coaching in love, relationships and intimacy through Loveology University® an online college of sexual knowledge where you can learn how to enrich your relationship and become a great lover. “Everyone knows how to have sex, but being romantic and making love is an art that can be learned,” says Dr. Ava.

 

For singles on Valentine’s Day Dr. Ava encourages them to give themselves the gift of knowledge on all aspects of relationships and love so that they can meet and keep a new relationship filled with all the healthy ingredients; friendship, respect, trust, communication and passion.

 

For couples on Valentine’s Day Dr. Ava recommends a Loveology gift certificate, the gift that keeps on giving and is guaranteed to refresh any relationship.

 

Live to love and feel more pleasure by making Loveology a way of life.

 
 Dr. Ava Cadell www.avacadell.com Loveology University® www.loveologyuniversity.com

E-mail:  drava@avadell.com or call (310) 882-5438

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52 Sizzling Sex Secrets-A Review

This ebook is definitely exactly what it claims to be-sizzling! There is one activity for each week of an entire year-and something for every couple.  The "secrets" do not need to be practiced in any particular order, so a couple can pick whatever appeals to them at any given moment.  After practicing these exercises, a couple is sure to find themselves full of inspiration that will lead them to explore more.

How Obama Won
Topic: Blog Tours

Today I would like to share some links with you to excerpts from How Obama Won by Earl Ofari Hutchinson.  The print copy is now available for shipping to both the US and Canada--and you can get imediate acces to the ebook by visiting:

https://www.plimus.com/jsp/buynow.jsp?contractId=2174906&referrer=JoyceAnthony

Please come back on Saturday when I will share my review of this book with you!

Now for the links:

Excerpts from How Obama Won by Earl Ofari Hutchinson

Table of Contents -
http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/take-peek-inside-how-obama-won-by-earl.html

Introduction -
http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-introduction.html

Chapter 3 - It Was Still the Economy Stupid - http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-3.html

 

Chapter 4 - Team Obama’s Money Game Changer - http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-4.html

Chapter 5 The Catch 22 Black Vote -
http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-5.html

Chapter 10 - How Obama Snatched the Race Card off The Presidential Table - http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-10.html

Chapter 14 - The Clinton Factor
http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-14.html

Chapter 19 - Not Black President Obama, Just President Obama
http://learnhowobamawon.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-obama-won-excerpt-from-chapter-19.html

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Love Guru Dr. Ava Cadell shares some thoughts
Topic: Author Interview

I have quite a dilemma today-Dr. Ava Cadell has so much going on that it was hard to limit what I share with you guys-and I just don't have room to share it all!  After reading the wonderful article by Dr. Cadell, please don't forget to check out the World's Best Lover contest (details below).

Armageddon Love by Dr. Ava Cadell

What happens when people feel their own mortality?  In Dr. Raymond Moody’s book, Life After Death, people described their experience of temporarily dying and then being brought back to life.  Almost everyone who had a near death experience reported being asked two questions during the time of their death.  Regardless of culture or religious beliefs, the two questions were the same: “What did you learn about being able to love?” and “How well did you use your gifts to live your unique life purpose?”

Most of us don’t get the opportunity to ponder these questions at the brink of life and death, never mind the prospect of coming back to life to change our responses should we be disappointed by them.  This being the case, it is only extreme, life-altering events that tend to compel us to assume such contemplative poses, and no one would argue that the prospect of Armageddon is an example of such a life-altering event.  However, what is new for many is the perceived proximity of Armageddon.  What was only recently considered alarmist fodder for hypochondriacs is now a realistic prospect for many.  And as such, it is causing many to “check in” with themselves in order to re-examine their lives in ways previously not contemplated and consequently to realign their priorities.

In some instances, this will lead people to be more introverted; the perceived greater risk and threat leading these people to want to close off and protect themselves from the prospect of further harm.  In other instances, this will lead people to be bolder, more daring and to take greater risks with the thought that “the end of the world” is approaching anyway so, why not?

Both of these paths have their benefits and drawbacks.  If you become more introverted, there may be less chance of getting hurt, but you also fail to live life to its fullest.  On the other hand, if you are bolder and more daring, you may also be inviting unnecessary risks, which may lead to their own dire circumstances.  However, there is a middle of the road.  Sincere self-examination can lead to self-forgiveness, the forgiveness of others, and the ability to lead a less judgmental life.

Being bold might include having the courage to find love, to learn how to deepen a relationship, or to live out your dreams.  Once people check in with their priorities, they tend to agree that love and human connections are the things that matter most in life.  This recognition motivates people to communicate more openly, intimately and honestly.   They are more aware of time and its imminent end and are hypersensitive of being left in the position of saying, “If only…”, “I wish I had…”, or “What if…”.  Uncertainty about the world and the longevity of one’s life causes people to take action.  Single people take greater risks because they don’t want to be alone, and couples reconnect, forming closer bonds.  In other words, people seek solace and refuge in the power of love.

Love is the fuel that keeps the world going round.  It empowers our planet.  In exploring everlasting love, we are seeking to express more of ourselves and experience more of life in tandem with the right partner.  If an individual can achieve a wholesome self-love, then two people uniting in love can become a powerhouse.  Every trial and tribulation they go through together can be viewed as an avenue to know, feel, and express more love.  Love has a high value because it is an investment.  It causes us to experience life on every level, and that is the ultimate gift of our existence.  We quest for love because of its enduring quality and its ability to grow if nourished.  Love is a precious gift that we earn and as such is all the more dear to us.  To be able to receive and give more of love is to experience life in glorious Technicolor.  To learn more about the power of love, do read my book, 12 Steps to Everlasting Love, or go to my virtual seminars.

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Tomorrow, we again visit with political expert, Earl Ofari Hutchinson--and Friday Dr. Ava Cadell will return for a final visit!